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Living happily ever after - separately! New relationship trend for older adults

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India TV Lifestyle Desk India TV Lifestyle Desk
New Delhi Published on: May 08, 2017 17:05 IST
LAT sociology
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Move over live-in relationships, a new trend is here that is seeing more older adults maintain intimate relationships sans ever moving in with their partners.

The new phenomenon called 'Living Apart Together' (LAT), an intimate relationship without a shared residence, is gaining popularity as an alternative form of commitment.

Researchers at the University of Missouri say that while the trend is well understood in Europe, it is lesser known in the US. This means that challenges, such as how LAT partners can engage in family caregiving or decision-making, could affect family needs.

"What has long been understood about late-in-life relationships is largely based on long-term marriage," said researcher Jacquelyn Benson. "There are now more divorced and widowed adults who are interested in forging new intimate relationships outside the confines of marriage. Recent research demonstrates that there are other ways of establishing long-lasting, high-quality relationships without committing to marriage or living together. However, U.S. society has yet to recognize LAT as a legitimate choice. If more people, young and old, married or not, saw LAT as an option, it might save them from a lot of future heartache."

The researchers interviewed adults who were at least 60 years old and in committed relationships but lived apart and found that couples were motivated by desires to stay independent, maintain their own homes, sustain existing family boundaries, and remain financially independent.

Couples expressed challenges defining their relationships or choosing terms to properly convey the nature of their relationships to others. For example, the majority considered traditional dating terms such as 'boyfriend' and 'girlfriend' to be awkward terms to use at their ages.

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"While we are learning more about LAT relationships, further research is needed to determine how LAT relationships are related to issues such as health care and caregiving," Benson said. "Discussions about end-of-life planning and caregiving can be sensitive to talk about; however, LAT couples should make it a priority to have these conversations both as a couple and with their families. Many of us wait until a crisis to address those issues, but in situations like LAT where there are no socially prescribed norms dictating behaviour these conversations may be more important than ever."

The study appears in the Journal of Marriage and Family.

(WIth ANI inputs)