No couple talks before wedding, 'joota chupai' tradition: Chhattisgarh community's strict rules
The Sen community, which falls under the Other Backward Class category, has a population of approximately 250,000 across the state. About 70 per cent of the community works in salons.
A community in Balod district of Chhattisgarh has imposed a ban on engaged couples speaking to each other privately over the phone until their marriage, citing a surge in relationship break-ups before weddings. The decision was taken by the Sen community, which falls under the Other Backward Class (OBC) category.
The Sen community has an estimated population of around 2.5 lakh across the state, with nearly 70 per cent of its members traditionally engaged in the salon and grooming profession.
Why community ban engaged couples from talking?
Santosh Kaushik, the community's Balod district president, said they observed that many couples were parting ways after engagement, causing distress for both parties. "We discovered that the reason behind this was the communication between the boy and the girl via mobile phone before marriage. Therefore, we have made a rule that there should be no communication between the boy and the girl after the engagement and before the marriage," he said.
If necessary, the conversation should take place in front of the parents, he said.
Gauri Shankar Shrivas, the state organisation secretary of the community, welcomed the decision by their Balod district unit. "The ban has been imposed in Balod district and will soon be implemented across the state. Previously, the community had also banned pre-wedding shoots," he said.
Younger generation divided over the idea
The younger generation is divided over the idea.
Balod resident Sakshi (20) welcomed the move, saying if mobile phones are breaking engagements, it's not right for couples to talk for hours before the wedding. "This decision is good for both the family and society," she said.
Poonam Ritu Sen, a journalist, is urging the community to reconsider the restriction.
"This is not only a matter of personal freedom, but also of choosing a life partner. If you want to spend your entire life with someone, it's important to understand them," said the 29-year-old.
If anything suggests a couple is incompatible, it is better to break off the engagement than end up divorcing after marriage. "The community should reconsider this decision," she added.
No 'joota chupai' tradition
Umesh Kumar Sen, the community spokesperson in Balod district, said they have also decided that sisters-in-law will no longer be able to hide their brother-in-law's shoe during weddings, a long-standing tradition, as this can create conflicts between the two parties.
He said the community has also decided to sever ties with a member if they embrace a different faith.
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